How to Get a Girl Pregnant is a frank and funny memoir about a dyke trying to get pregnant. Karleen Pendleton Jiménez has known that she was gay since she was three years old and wanted to have a baby for almost as long. But how is a butch Chicana lesbian supposed to get sperm? Picking up men at nightclubs and restaurants? Asking queer male friends for a donation? Using sperm banks dominated by blue-eyed and blond-haired donors? This candid and humorous memoir follows Karleen’s challenges, adventures, successes, failures, humiliations, and triumphs while attempting to fulfill her dream of giving birth to a child. It is a confession of desire, humility, and the search for perfection.
“Like all great memoirs, this is an intimate story that manages to connect with the universal, and the narratives of pregnancy and motherhood are so much richer for it.”—Kerry Clare, Pickle Me This
“It’s an honest, brave and beautiful story and everyone should read it.”—Alison Lang, Broken Pencil
“You’re a butch woman, a bulldagger, an outlier, and your maternal instincts are a strong as Betty Crocker. Whaddya do when you want to get pregnant on the double without a lot of heterosexual handwringing and bourgeois p.c. angst? You listen to Karleen Jimenez tell you, that’s what! And laugh and cry along with her. This book IS the antidote to all those dreary, by-the-numbers books and pamphlets about how to inseminate, how to get sperm motility, all the legal issues… yes yes we KNOW all that but can’t someone get to the heart of it all? Someone who isn’t plagued with square anxieties, who has a vision about loving that can’t quit?”—Susie Bright
Karleen Pendleton Jiménez is the screenwriter of the award-winner film Tomboy, and the author for the children’s book Are You a Boy or a Girl?, a finalist for the Lambda Literary Award. She is a professor of education at Trent University. Raised in LA, having lived in Berkeley and San Diego, she now makes her home in Toronto.